Khaya Mthethwa reflects on healing and love after divorce

In a poignant podcast interview on the "Podcast, Radio & Stuff" platform, renowned singer-songwriter and radio presenter Khaya Mthethwa candidly discussed his tumultuous journey as a divorcee, revealing the profound impact the experience had on him.

"I think that it is the most painful thing I have ever gone through in my life. I don’t wish divorce on anyone.

"In actual fact, I will never divorce again," he shared, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanied the end of his marriage.

Mthethwa's relationship with former Miss South Africa Ntandoyenkosi Kunene, began with a celebratory union in 2017 that was tragically cut short by their divorce in 2019.

Rumours of infidelity swirled around the couple, but Mthethwa staunchly refuted those allegations, revealing the depths of questioning and self-reflection he endured during and after the split.

“I cannot describe to you how you question everything. How you have to rebuild yourself, rebuild your confidence, rebuild your perspective on love, and rebuild your perspective on family and children, etc.,” he expressed, demonstrating the immense weight that the dissolution of his marriage carried.

Despite the heartache, the artist believes he has emerged from the experience stronger and has embarked on a significant journey of healing.

A key component of his recovery has been embracing therapy.

“I’m very structured. I’m a black man who goes to therapy. I do it, and I’m proud of it,” he revealed, breaking down societal barriers and norms surrounding mental health for men in South Africa.

Mthethwa is clear about his aspirations, as he expressed a desire to find love again and to settle down once more.

“I don’t want to grow old alone. I’m not interested in being single and being in the streets. I have zero aspirations for those things. I think singleness is overrated,” he said.

His reflections on family life and marriage challenge the negative narratives often presented in society about divorce.

“It’s wrong how there is so much negativity. And I think I want to play into the narrative of being a light, even in that,” he stated, encouraging others to believe in the possibility of love and family after setbacks.

“Even when you have come from a place of divorce, you can still recover, still gain back your life, and still fall in love again.”

Mthethwa's heartfelt revelations not only shed light on the pain of divorce but also inspire hope and resilience for those navigating similar paths.

His journey of rebuilding oneself and embracing love could resonate with many South Africans grappling with their own challenges in relationships.